{"id":3491,"date":"2017-09-26T22:53:00","date_gmt":"2017-09-26T22:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/crossoceanfund.com\/?p=3491"},"modified":"2023-03-09T00:24:22","modified_gmt":"2023-03-09T00:24:22","slug":"how-my-13-year-old-son-taught-me-to-be-a-better-entrepreneur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/crossoceanfund.com\/how-my-13-year-old-son-taught-me-to-be-a-better-entrepreneur\/","title":{"rendered":"How My 13-Year-Old Son Taught Me to Be a Better Entrepreneur"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>This article originally appeared on&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.inc.com\/serhat-pala\/how-my-13-year-old-son-taught-me-to-be-a-better-entrepreneur.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Inc<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;re never too young or too old to&nbsp;learn&nbsp;or&nbsp;teach. I was always excited at the prospect of teaching my two sons about entrepreneurship. With several years of&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.inc.com\/serhat-pala\/3-entrepreneurial-lessons-from-the-surprisingly-prolific-blockbuster-founder.html?cid=search\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">entrepreneurial<\/a>&nbsp;experience, I thought I was in a good position to mentor them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And then my 13-year-old went and broke a world record while organizing his fellow students to help the homeless, and I thought maybe I should be the one taking notes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Breaking a record.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>My son&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/kenan-pala-670b89106\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Kenan Pala<\/a>, who was 12 at the time, organized his fellow school students in October of 2016 to break the&nbsp;<a href=\"http:\/\/kids4.org\/blog\/students-set-world-record-while-fighting-homelessness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Guinness World Record for Largest Cardboard Box Mosaic<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The idea came to him while we observed a group of concerned citizens trying to rescue an injured seal in San Diego. Kenan was moved by the group&#8217;s compassion, and wondered if he could motivate people to help their fellow humans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I suggested he start a food drive at his school. He gave me a knowing smile and said he had something a little different in mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kenan led his fellow students to gather enough red Quaker Puffed Rice boxes and blue Quaker Puffed Wheat boxes to create a giant mosaic depicting a heart on a blue background measuring 2,213.22 square feet, which at the time was a Guinness World Record for a cardboard box mosaic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The lesson: Don&#8217;t just set goals, truly motivate people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having goals is important, but if you really want people to get excited, you have to find a way to motivate them. My son knew that if he asked his peers to donate food, their response would probably be lukewarm at best. But being a part of recorded history? That&#8217;s something worth getting excited over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want your company to be great, you&#8217;ll need something better than just beating some arbitrary sales number.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Symbolizing success.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Making a heart from rectangular boxes isn&#8217;t easy. My son and wife pored over the plans for hours. I suggested he switch it from a heart to something else that was easier to create. He told me the heart was necessary&#8211;it was a symbol of love and caring, and the entire project was meant to show caring for the homeless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The lesson: Symbolism matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Forget corporate logos, in business, the important symbols are things like recognition awards for staff or cards that celebrate people&#8217;s birthdays or special anniversaries. These things matter to people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Communicating consistency.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The world record event took about a year of planning. Kenan organized a crew to help, and sent them weekly emails to keep everyone updated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There were quiet periods, like when they waited for the world record application to get approved and during the summer months when team members were away. I suggested he might skip the emails on some of these quieter weeks, but he kept sending them every Sunday night, saying he didn&#8217;t want his team getting complacent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The lesson: Consistent communication matters, even when your message is limited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Communication is how we create momentum and use symbolism. If we allow ourselves to get lazy because we don&#8217;t have much to say, it can sputter to a halt. You should keep your communications consistent so people know what to expect and when to expect it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you get inconsistent with your communication, people feel left in the dark.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Eschewing comfort.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Everything my son did for this project was beyond his comfort zone, including:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Giving speeches.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Learning project management.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Conducting TV and radio interviews.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Asking for help from people and companies he didn&#8217;t know.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Talking to his friends about the project instead of whatever they usually talk about.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Asking his school principal for use of the gymnasium for the project.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Convincing my wife and I to spend money on the project.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Spending his own money on the project.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>All of these were things he was not comfortable doing, yet he did them anyway. When I asked if he wanted help with any of it, he replied that he&#8217;d rather learn to do it himself so he could get the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The lesson: You should never be comfortable when you&#8217;re trying to change the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being comfortable isn&#8217;t really part of the deal, especially for entrepreneurs. Often, feeling comfortable is how we know it&#8217;s time to start something new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For his efforts, Kenan was rewarded with a wealth of experience, a sense of accomplishment, and the knowledge that he was able to help both his peers and people who struggle with hunger on a daily basis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh, and he also received a shiny medal to hang around his neck: a&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/spirit.prudential.com\/honoree\/2017\/ca\/kenan-pala\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Prudential Spirit of Community Award<\/a>&nbsp;for being one of the top five middle school volunteers in the entire country.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As for me, I learned you&#8217;re never too young or too old to learn how to be a better entrepreneur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This article originally appeared on&nbsp;Inc. You&#8217;re never too young or too old to&nbsp;learn&nbsp;or&nbsp;teach. 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